We all have a picture in our heads of the perfect mom, right? She has it all together, all the time. She’s happy, her kids are happy. She’s always smiling and her kids never misbehave.
You may even know a mom like this. That when you see her, she just always seems so together, while you are in yoga pants and a stained t-shirt and are happy that your kids don’t have jelly all over their faces and hands.
But the thing is, it’s all a total fantasy. What you see isn’t always the full picture of another person’s life. And in the end, that picture perfect supermom may not exist, but we are ALL supermoms in our own way.
Moms who love their kids. Moms who are teaching their kids and helping them reach their full potential. And I bet if we asked your kids, they would say that you are a supermom to them, and that’s all that really matters.
In my life I have often been on both sides. I get questioned on how I do it all and have been called a supermom. AND I have watched other moms, secretly wishing I could be even half as put together as they are. So from one mom to another, here are 7 supermom myths to stop believing today so that you can let your inner supermom shine.
7 Supermom Myths You Need To Stop Believing Today!
Her House Is Always Spotless
As a young mom I had levels of clean. Everyday clean. Company clean. New company clean. Party Clean. Mom clean. And I can tell you now that everyday clean was not nearly as spotless as all the others.
I also learned over the years, that even those that I thought kept a spotless house, had that one room. That one room where everything that didn’t have a home got shoved, and the door was closed so that no one could see the mess inside.
Like Monica’s secret messy closet.
We all want to appear like we have it all together. And that’s what you have to remember. Appearances are likely just that.
And, yes, I am sure there are some houses that are actually spotless all. the. time. But I guarantee you that that mom is likely dropping the ball in another area of her life.
She is Always Presentable
It’s easy to see friends at a park or out shopping, and think, why do they look so amazing while I look like a bum?!
Or how about snapshots of life posted on Facebook or Instagram?
We all want to appear like we have it all together all the time, even when that’s not true. We pick the best pictures to share on social media and try to act like all the mess ups didn’t happen.
And I know from personal experience, at home, I am in yoga pants with messy hair. If I have to go out of the house, I put on real clothes and make up. That doesn’t mean I am more put together, it’s just what I am comfortable with.
And when someone drops by unannounced or some random person comes to the drop I have to seriously hustle to get myself looking like I didn’t just roll out of bed in the middle of the afternoon.
Real supermoms come in all looks and fashion. She can wear yoga pants and t-shirts with baby food splatter. She can wear designer jeans. She can have a flawless face or she can have bags under her eyes from lack of sleep.
She Never Yells at Her Kids
“You are always so calm.”
I don’t know how many times I heard that as a mom of many young boys.
To the outside world it would look like I had this parenting thing down. But in reality, I don’t yell at my kids in public. And I think that is true of most moms.
Instead of yelling, we perfect the ‘mom look’ or hiss commands under our breath.
Does this mean I don’t raise my voice at home? Of course not. I, like all moms, lose my temper from time to time.
My kids test the boundaries and push my buttons. And yes, I yell. Just like everyone else.
No one is perfect all the time. Sure, try to keep your temper and yell less often. But if you slip up, that’s okay too.
Her Kids Are Always Well Behaved
This one makes me laugh. It is something I heard all the time when my boys were young.
Are they always this good?
I heard that at the store from strangers. At playgroups from other moms. At restaurants from servers.
And you know what, my kids are generally always on their best behavior out in public. Which may make it seem like I am so supermom. Walking along with 6 quiet, calm, respectable kids. But….
No. They are not always well behaved. I have holes in the walls to prove it.
Kids are kids. They aren’t in full control of their tempers or their emotions- and this doesn’t have any bearing on whether or not you are a supermom.
She is Always Happy
No one is always happy. No one.
I kind of feel like I want to get up on a soap box at start talking about mental health here, but I won’t.
I’ll just say that it’s easy to fake happiness. It’s easy to put on a smile and pretend everything is okay, when it’s not.
So that supermom you look up to. The one who has it all together. The one who is always smiling. She might be struggling.
She might put the kids to bed and cry in the shower where no one can hear her.
It’s okay to feel down. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. None of that has any bearing on whether or not you are a supermom.
She Always Puts Her Kids First
Being supermom doesn’t mean putting everything and everyone ahead of you. Most of the time, yes, we moms put our kids first. But self care is so important.
Self care will help you feel happier.
Taking time for yourself will help you feel more calm, confident, and put together.
Burnout comes when you put everything else for too long. When you are burned out it affects your mood, it affects your home, it affects your ability to keep your temper.
All moms need to take time for themselves to recharge, so they can’t be the best mom they can be.
She Does It All
I’ve kind of already covered all of this, but just in case there is any doubt.
No mom can do it ALL.
Everyday balance is just as much as myth as that fictional supermom in your head.
Some days your house might be cleaner than others. Some days you might get more work done than others. Some days you might play more with your kids than others. Some days you might get to take care of you more than others.
But there’s just not enough time in a single day to do it all.
Check out my tips on How to Be a More Productive Mom to help you get the most out of every day, but remember you don’t have to do it all to be supermom.
So there’s my myths. I know there are people out there who say supermom doesn’t exist. But I think she does. I think she lives inside of all of us. We just have to change the image of what she looks like.